It’s Monday.
It annoys the hell out of me that every single time I have something on my mind, I’ll lose my train of thought when I sit down and write. There’s so much stuff trying to get out of me and yet I have not been able to articulate them.
It is unsettling, but bear with me as I try to say them, because I need to get them out of my head.
These last two days were not good. Someone took a joke too far and cited the overused excuse of how I can’t take a joke. Like seriously? If someone tells you that the joke’s not funny anymore and you continue it, there’s something wrong with you. It’s as offensive and annoying about the ‘you must be fun at parties‘ jibe – hell, take a freaking mirror and look at your utterly crap attitude in it. And when they give you a non-apology apology it’s just utterly ridiculous that they think life and whatever fancypants stuff means the offended one has to take it.
No – I’m not obliged to take it, so take your apology and shove it up your arse.
I can’t freaking believe I have to do this for the third time this year. Do people actually respect boundaries these days?
I actually went to ask ID thereafter if I get triggered too often and that I’m hurting people because of it (he got the brunt of it once), but then I realised it was stupid to ask so. My emotions are valid. I shouldn’t be acting like the one that always has to apologise for the mistakes of others. I shouldn’t have to act in this knee-jerk way that ‘it’s my fault‘ when it is not.
Yet I wonder if I am inherently evil despite people always saying otherwise. I do admit I have a thing for ‘an eye for an eye’ – I do vary my response to people depending on how they treat me. I probably am cold-blooded since I don’t really take into account ties and kinship when it comes to issues regarding principles.
I happened to wake up intermittently today to the long conversations that SW and MH were having over WhatsApp in our group and read parts of it and went back to sleep. It didn’t help that I went through another blog I read and saw the exact same situation (let’s call this dude K). SW and MH were talking about toxic friendships and about how there are jerks in your life (that you think you’ll spend the rest in your life with) that disposes of you. K said things in the same vein. Now, I’m still deathly afraid of getting into a relationship because I don’t think I can ever have someone to share my life with, and I don’t trust anyone enough to do so. Someone told me I should be spending more time with girls and not guys even as a bi dude but the thing is he doesn’t even know I don’t spend time with either.
With the experience SW/MH/ID/K got, I probably be happier alone than having two parties forced to compromise for each other. Love probably is dead.
Two other things happened in the intervening half an hour I was typing –
- I received the withdrawal letter from the local university – it was nice to see that those buggers finally sent a legitimate letter (through the postal service) for once. I don’t regret my decision. Despite having quite a good time with some of the people there during my stint, I’ve found that the school keeps them in blissful unawareness of the world – in that they don’t know that competition exists outside of the school and that it doesn’t matter with regards to dominating and scheming within the school to gain favour from the bell-curve gods. It seems something quite prevalent in the business schools here – with their immense population they think they can break into IB or consulting just by going there. I don’t know how they will take it when reality hits.
- I got a satisfactory response from one of a complaint I made the other day. I really don’t get the service industry at times when service delivery is everything but they’ve managed to do everything except that. As much as I dislike Akbar Al-Baker’s (Qatar Airways’ boss) show-boating tactics, you’ve gotta give him credit that he has managed to build his airline around service delivery. It’s something that others should really learn from, and I just wonder how people can think they can break into the service industry and yet forget the service delivery bit – the bit that amounts to everything.
I know my titles are sub-par, but hey, bear with it? (I do need better titles, though.) And if you’ve managed to get yourself down to this line – thanks for hearing me out. It means loads to me.
Till next time.